ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT!

i'm guessing we've all heard this tired old line "is this how you behave! you need an attitude adjustment young missy!!". now more often than not that's probably because they want us to behave a ceratin way and do something according to their standards. but then more often than not we do not follow it because its not "our way", not the way that we do things. or is it? the thing is that the reason that we are a certain way or think that there is a certain way that we do things comes from a basic inflexible attitude. and the fact is that this is actually taught to us( i know what your thinking, HA! mom dad told you so right?). we have been taught all our lives to be determined, and always think that we can do it and we must succeed. but that's where the problem begins. using absolutes in your language like "i must" or "i always" or "i never", makes it an absolute goal in your mind, where there is no room for possibilities other than the set outcome. there is no room to salvage a situation and to try an alterantive method when the plan looks like its failing( depressing i know!). but imagine if you were to give your mind room for possibilities, if there was a thought in your head that you can salvage a situation and that all you need to do is alter the plan. this can start with a very simple methodology. instead of saying "i must" think of it as "i want to" or "i choose to". that way there is always a possibility to turn things around. by choosing it, you make it such that you can always alter what you choose depending on if it is beneficial to you or not. by creating this language of possibilities, we can change our whole mindset. imagine all the things that you can achieve! all just by changing the words we use. language is a powerful tool. it can make or break something, give an idea an identity and a definition in your mind and generally determins the amount of stress you are under. think of how less stressed out you would be if you knew that you could salvage almost any situation, if you knew that you could just alter your plan of action and still achieve the end result. THAT would be the ultimate attitude adjustment that anyone needs. “Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” ? Mahatma Gandhi .--N